Agency, November 21: 8 Signs that someone is jealous of you
1. False praise
Someone who is jealous of you might not have any trouble giving you a seemingly sincere compliment; however, once you leave the room they will roll their eyes. They are very likely to pretend they are not jealous rather than addressing the issue.
Giving them sincere compliments when they achieve something can somehow help the issue. This might curb their jealousy when they see you are a genuine person.
According to Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D. in clinical psychology: “Short of becoming indiscriminately wary of others’ praise or flattery, it’s only prudent to consider whether they might have a hidden agenda in praising you. That way you can minimize the possibility that their seemingly trustworthy compliments aren’t really some sort of two-faced con.”
2. Downplay your success
No matter how big your achievement is, jealous people will try hard to make it seem easy or not important. Their reasons could also seem rude or condescending. MSc. M. Farouk Radwan said: “People who will envy you the most are the ones who are in need the most of what you possess.”
Falling in their trap will only give them more reason to talk this way to you in the future. Stay humble but also firm in your achievements because if you brag they might get even more jealous of you.
3. Flaunting their success
A jealous person will flaunt their success even more than it is worth it. They are also more likely to do this while you are celebrating your own successes. They do this because they feel you are more successful than them. Bob Bly who has written about this issue said: “There are always people who are filled with negative thoughts — not only about others whom they envy (you) but also about themselves and their perceived failure to having achieved their goals (which are often to own their own business or be richer than they are).”
Even though it can often be frustrating, being upset in front of them will only make them feel more secure in their behavior. Fight fire with fire, and praise them sincerely about their achievements. Setting a good example is a good way of changing how someone else behaves.
4. They are imitating you
A person that is jealous of you actually wants to be the same or better than you. They will copy the way you walk, talk or dress just to make them feel better about them. Don’t let this upset you. Instead, help them find their own way, and when they are doing something original, encourage them.
5. They’re competitive
Clinical psychologist Melanie Greenberg says that jealous people are either insecure or arrogant and they want to prove superiority. They are also very competitive. If you get involved into such situation, try to make the competition appear unhealthy and refuse to participate. Refusing to take part in a competition with them will make them less likely to keep trying.
6. Celebrating your failures
A person that is jealous of you will feel very good when you make mistakes. Even though they never show it, they are often secretly enjoying it. Stop being afraid of making mistakes and once you do keep your head high. Keep in mind that mistakes are a part of life and remind jealous people of that. If you are not upset, they will not get the enjoyment they expected.
7. They gossip
Jealous people often gossip and the things they say can be very hurtful. Confronting them directly about this is the best way to deal with it. James Clear, an author, said: “… negativity from other people is like a wall. And if you focus on it, then you’ll run right into it. You’ll get blocked by negative emotions, anger, and self-doubt. Your mind will go where your attention is focused. Criticism and negativity don’t prevent you from reaching the finish line, but they can certainly distract you from it.”
Jealous people are rarely confrontational, so if you talk to them about their behavior it might make them rethink about it or even stop it entirely.
8. They hate you
If a person hates you for no particular reason they are probably just jealous of you. This is a hard thing to deal with because nobody wants to be hated. You might feel the need to show this person you are likeable, however if you fail you should probably just cut them out of your life. Spare yourself from unnecessary negativity and let it go.
Dealing with a jealous person is tricky and you might feel the urge to tell them off. However, if you try to deal with the situation in a positive and non-confrontational manner you are very likely to succeed. Jealous people often have self-esteem issues that they might never work on. So, if someone is not willing to change in spite of all your effort, try to remain positive. But always think of yourself and never let anyone drain your energy with their negativity.
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